Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Why are we judgemental ?
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you-Matthew 7:1”
Haven't we all been judgemental at several points in our life.Circumstances make the man.There was a time I stayed away from certain people because they never satisfied my idea of moral conduct. I have come a long way and realised morals are a part of our own personal conditioning. Not everybody has your idea of morality. What is morality to me is prudishness to the other. Through the ages, moral codes change dramatically..there's no constant. It is just something few people have agreed to believe and adhere to for a certain period of time.
As we grow spiritually we realise this truth that we are all essentially the same and just playing parts in this grand illusion, this drama.My sessions and the subjects have been a good teacher. I ve gained a lot from them too as they may have from me.
A sure sign of spiritual evolution is not having the need to judge the other by our narrow standards. What we judge in others is a part of us most of the time..but we cannot see it in ourselves..Usually the mirror is distorted and quite magnified so we dont realise it.
I have seen varied past lives both others and mine..It is quite a comedy that the saint in this life could be the prostitute in the other..What we classify as morality is not what spirit or the soul values. Spirit or the soul values love, sacrifice, compassion and such qualities. I have seen myself as an Egyptian, a Buddhist a Hindu and so on...It would be such a blessing if everyone had the insight to see this. We would not have had so much violence in the world. Too many lives have been lost for religion. What we hold on to dearly in one life we lose, and what we judge we become.
Seeing a few past lives has opened my eyes and I cannot judge others on the basis of religion or morals even if I wanted to.I always sat on this moral high horse because of the numerous religious lives I had.I still have a lot to work on.
Realising that it was only a conditioning I carried from several past lives took me time. Similiarly we have so many samskaras we carry from this and past lives. When we live in awareness we know what we are doing is coming from our own thinking or from that of our parents or society or the subconscious.
We live in an unconscious society where we are always in a doped out state. We carry on in a rut, dulling our senses with work or TV. Most of what we do is reactive or conditioned. We hardly live and enjoy the moment..there's always a sense of urgency, a next goal, a next promotion, a new conquest. In this doing we lost Being. So its hardly a surprise to not know where our prime motivators are coming from.
How many of us are still living someone else s unfulfilled dream ? Parents condition children to continue what they were conditioned to do..some make the children do what they could not...an endless, mindless cycle. Also with the kind of crazy world we have created we dont think for a second ..Wait, stop why am i doing this at all..
Do I want this ? Do I mean what I am saying or am I just reacting to something like an addiction,a habit. Its like an endless program. Its a looping program..when can we cut the pattern. Till we understand where its coming from there's no respite.
When you give this a serious thought and consciously undertake this awareness exercise..you will drop unnecessary conditioning you have gathered at least from this life.
Past life ones embedded in your subconscious may be tougher to uproot as the roots are in your subconscious. Persistence pays..A simple meditation of watching the breath in awareness can always keep you in the moment ..that way you dont create unecessary karma by reacting unconsciously..you act in awareness. Meditation is not blanking out and doing nothing..its serious business..being in total present moment awareness. Just watch your thoughts, be a witness to your breath and watch your bodily sensations and your emotions.
Its tough at the start as we've learnt to space out and detach from our bodies through the day to fight boredom at work, a nagging wife, a tyrant boss. That is why being in the body in complete awareness is seriously hard work at the start. As you deprogram and relearn you realise this is your true state of being to be connected body,mind and soul. In this state there is no way you can do anything wrong. Your heart and head is in alignment and there is no conflict. Sadly in our left brained world we value intellect to emotion and do away with it in our schools. Creativity is suppressed and we promote mediocrity. We learn to obey rather than differ. We are almost like mass produced clones.
Forced morals are ways of keeping individuals from thinking for themselves. This kind of a thinking has made us judgemental,prejudicial and repressed.
In recent years more and more young people are getting disillusioned with their empty lives. The bubble has burst for them and they want to get out and do something more than just living selfishly. So many people come to me to explore their life purpose. They know there is more to life than satisfying their narrow material goals.
In this new thinking there is an acceptance of people who are different from themselves,as they understand everyone has a different path to follow. We can only share what we experienced on our path,we cannot force our way on others. Every one has a unique path..the beauty is that we are all heading home along different ways. Life is an experience and we have to play the part well, to do that,you need to know your part. If we were meant to be clones..why would we have such myriad experiences. So live life in each moment in full awareness without judging the other. He has his path, his obstacles his circumstances. You do yourself the greatest service by continuing your way doing your part best.