Why do we need to Forgive ?

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.

-Catherine Ponder

Forgiveness is an essential for moving ahead on any path. Forgive not because you have been told so but for being liberated from your self created prison of hatred.

In many of the sessions I have conducted I see Forgiveness and Healing closely intertwined.When we die we carry only our emotional energies and knowledge we gathered... the material possessions, titles we leave behind..We take with us grudges, resentment, hatred and revengeful attitudes alongwith the positive energies like love,compassion,gratitude etc. The energies we carry in our subconscious mind attract the same drama and similiar players. The drama continues endlessly till one or the other party consciously breaks the pattern. To let go is not noble but a clever thing to do, if you want to break the pattern. This does not mean you keep quiet and resent silently. Letting go and forgiving means to forgive from within.When it no more has any negative residue you have truly forgiven and let it go.

While doing PlR sessions in case of relationship issues..usually the pattern is carried over from other life times where the reverse was true..the victim was the abuser and vice versa. Normally when the victim sees this truth and polar opposite lifetime..they instantly feel remorse and forgive quite easily. So subconsciously the guilt was allowing them to play out the victim role in this life in reaction to the past pattern. Till we know why we have chosen to be the victim we cannot break such a pattern. If we can see this experentially it is very simple. Otherwise we have to believe in karma and take responsibility for whatever we are facing. If we know whatever we face is a part of our own doing we can forgive.

The links that we create through hatred are far stronger than love. Perhaps this is why our world is filled with so much violence and suffering. We are all playing subconscious patterns of guilt,revenge,victimhood and abuse. Here everyone is suffering including the abuser because of an unconscious agreement. He also does not know why he is playing the role.
If we only made bonds of love..the world would reflect that. The world around us is a reflection of what we create in our minds with anger, revenge and resentment from lifetime to lifetime. As this cycle goes on, it becomes more mindless as we do not know where it began.
If one party releases,the bond snaps..and releases both even if the other has not shifted his consciousness. Even by forgiving in our own minds with full awareness we can release the bond. We do not always need to ask for foriveness in person. Maybe this is why Catholics have the ritual of confession before a priest. If it is done with feeling and true emotion it works to erase the pattern.
At a soul level no one is making us do things or suffer. We are responsible and we chose to undergo this. We are spirits here to learn lessons. The more patterns you break and the more you see them disappear the more you are convinced this is an interactive matrix and responds to your emotions,feelings and thoughts. Before you do it, it looks so tough, once you have done it, and the pattern disappears you wonder what stopped you from doing it sooner. The bubble bursts and you see its illusionary nature. The toughest lessons are usually karmic so look deeper at those difficult relationships around you and ask yourself who do I still need to forgive ?